Hi Everyone! We’re so glad you’ve joined us as we dive into Gary Chapman’s and Ross Campbell’s Love Language #3 from their book, The 5 Love Languages of Children.

Early into this chapter, the authors pinpoint the main concept for their 3rd Love Language, quality time. “Quality time is a parent’s gift of presence to a child. It conveys this message: You are important. I like being with you. Quality time is focused, undivided attention.” 

I think it is hugely helpful when Chapman and Campbell are specific about how parents need to shift and adjust their quality time actions to meet the changing needs of their physically and emotionally developing child. 

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I’ve been waiting patiently to write about this love language, well, maybe not so patiently…. In Gary Chapman’s and Ross Campbell’s The 5 Love Languages of Children, I think the authors beautifully articulate the purpose of acts of service. The authors write, “The ultimate purpose of acts of service to children is to help them emerge as mature adults who are able to give love to others through acts of service. This includes not only being helpful to cherished loved ones but also serving persons who are in no way able to return or repay the kindness.” 

Sometimes, the acts parents do for their children daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly, seem to go unnoticed. When parents feel like their efforts of genuine love expressed through their acts of service go unappreciated, attitudes can teeter towards going into the  resentful camp. Chapman and Campbell warn their readers about keeping attitudes in check because when we become less than positive, children will feel these acts are not an expression of love. The authors tell us, when parents care for their children with a spirit of resentment and bitterness, a child’s physical needs may be met, but their emotional development can be greatly hampered.

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